It was a lovely, original, spiritual ceremony. The French guests, unused to such, were rather surprised and fascinated by the “Feel the earth under your feet;” and “breathe in the energy and let any concerns or doubts you may have leave with your breath.” There were traditional exchanges of rings, vows like “do you accept …,” “I do’s,” and the final Kiss. As the bride and groom walked back down the grassy steps between stands where huge glass vases held white rose petals, all the young children tossed the petals to the newly weds in a perfect shower of white.

We had 3 days of wonderful fun, food, friends, ex-husbands, families of ex-husbands, former wives of ex-husbands, perfect weather, time to cruise the port and back streets of St Tropez.

All the events surrounding the wedding took place at the home of Catherine Schneider, Vadim’s wife after me, who has been a second mother to Vanessa over the years. Her graciousness, class, generosity and joi de vie, ensured that everything would be splendid in every way. It was all enhanced by the talents of jewelry designer par excellence, Carlo Traglio, and his friend, Thomas. They came from Italy on Carlo’s yacht, bringing the flowers, candles, and Thomas’s amazing creative talent at turning an already startlingly beautiful estate into a magical wonderland. I am exceedingly grateful to Catherine, Carlo and Thomas.

Had to leave for the airport in the middle of a totally splendid and gorgeously laid out table of raw veggies (arranged on thick cork platters as is custom in St Tropez) and grilled fish with 39 of us at the famous Club 55 on the even more famous Pamplona Beach. Vadim and I spent many months over our 8 years together at Hotel Tahiti, a little bit down to the left on that same beach. In fact, that’s where we were when the morning french papers announced that the U.S. Congress had voted to bomb North Vietnam–the “Tonkin Gulf Resolution.”

I cried a lot seeing my daughter so happy. And all of us are crazy about Paul Van Winkle, the handsome and kind groom.

I return to Paris tired and relieved that it all went so well (with no effort on my part, I have to add) and without any meltdowns.

A big whew!! Enjoy the photos.

children of guests playing during our happy hour

Boo Boo with his daughter

handsome groom-to-be

Boo Boo (purple scarf) with some of his guests

The about-to-be-married lovers at the cocktail gathering

Frday night--Happy Hour offered by Catherine's son, Boo Boo (Olivia) from her first marriage, the night before the wedding.

Italian jewelry designer, Carlo Traglio

The Port

The harbor

The church in the background is where Vadim's funeral services took place

There are a number of Botero statues along the port's edge

The view from where I had lunch Saturday

Tulea not-to-cautiously approaching a peacock in the street

The Saturday market in the square


Other side from the port of St Tropez

lots of narrow streets

You can't move at the height of the season--July and August

Thomas's flower arrangement in my room

the walk to the ceremony

Waiting for the bride

left to right--Troy, Catherine, Vania, Vanessa, Paul and me

Barbara Wiliams, Tom's gorgeous wife--actor and singer

wedding cake with rubber ducky bride and groom on top

Tom Hayden, his wife, Barbara Williams and friend of all, John Rubin

bride and groom walking to the ceremonial spot

left to right: Vania, Nathalie, Natacha who is Carlo's international Director, Marie Christine, Helene, Simone, troy, Olivia, Vania's girlfriend

The next day at club 55

There was what Catherine described as a shish kabob of children at the far end of the table

me with my daughter, the newly wed

crudities (raw vegetables on a cork tray)

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  1. Hello,
    It feels strange writing this as we have never met, but I want to thank you for sharing such a wonderful occasion with us.
    As a reader, you let me catch glimpses of a special day for you and it reminded me of my wedding 10 years ago, full of feelings and tender moments.
    I enjoyed reading and seeing your post.

  2. jane-
    i loved that you shared this special occasion with the world. i am an old friend of the groom, and i know how happy paul is being with vanessa…and it shows in the pix that they are blissed lovers should be. they both look beautiful…as i hope their life together will be.


  3. what a glorious setting. the shower of flower petals at the wedding…swoon. i love that photo of Vanessa in pigtails in front of the water…she looks truly radiant and happy. congrats to all.

  4. How wonderful of you to share such an intimate occassion. Such a beautiful couple,and the pictures capture the essence and purity of true love. May loves refrain eternally echo. Blessings & Congratulations to all!


    PS. I love how Tulea mingled with the guests

  5. A beautiful photograph of the little girls throwing petals! Thank you Ms Fonda. Your stories are always amusing/uplifting.

  6. Just lovely! Thank you for sharing…I am still in awe of you, as I have been since the 60’s! Love reading your blog.

  7. It was special for me to look through these images on a hot August afternoon in Oregon. What a glorious ceremony and gorgeous couple. And you know what? I don’t think you ever looked more beautiful than in the shot of you with your daughter…the one where you are wearing the gray cap and scarf. What a wonder you are.

  8. Thank you for sharing this wonderful day. My daughter was married in August of this year also. As a parent, I know how you feel. In reviewing the photos, I was impressed with the simplicity of the wedding and how casual and happy everyone appeared. I have long admired your work in movies and the guts it took you to take the political stances in the 60’s. Thanks Lady Jane!

  9. Congratulations and thank you for sharing!

  10. I looked at the pictures hard imanaging myself there and for one brief moment I was. The wedding was sablime with views of the ocean as a background the white roses the love in the couples eyes all lifted my soul. Thank you so much for sharing these private moments with us. I will treasure this always. Please pass our hopes for their future happiness. Sandi

  11. We also had a beautiful Maltese! Her name is Bessie. 🙂
    This was a simple and beautiful wedding. Thanks for sharing.

  12. Thank you for sharing an important slice of your life through this… Such a treasure from someone as great as you. I am a big fan of yours.

  13. Jane,

    Very down to earth it speaks depths about who Vanessa amd Paul are, grounded in the love of family and true friends, yet adventurous romantics.

    I wish them all the love their hearts can hold, to be blessed and fulfilled with one another, and that they jave the kimd of love that can last a lifetime.

    I can relate how proud you are of your children, how much you love and only want what’s best for them. I have two sons, ages twenty-seven and twenty-nine, and seven grandchildren… but I digress.

    I am so very happy for you Jane, your facial expressions, body language and countenance is simply radiant with love and joy.

    In your early sixties I noticed you were changing, I however did not know until later you’d found something bigger than any one of us. I can not express enough how greatly I wish everyone would Just Let Go, and then they too could experience such lige changing love and joy in life… I am so very happy for you.

    Author / Artist,

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