OFF THE TOP OF MY HEAD

I was surprised by the response to my last blog post. I guess people like to know how someone like myself spends their time during a pandemic. I feel somewhat uncomfortable talking about my daily routines at a time like this when so much that is deeply important and historic is going on and so many are suffering life and death issues. The $600 supplemental income bill runs out in 2 days and the f&%#@* senate Republicans can’t find their way to help. But a number of you said that this blog calmed them so here’s another one of those daily drudge reports.

My 8 1/2 pound 15 1/2 year-old dog, Tulea, wakes me up every morning around 6am by standing on my stomach. She is 100% deaf and so spends lot of time staring at me for signals as to how I feel and what I want from her. She also has heart issues but when we come back into the house after I take her out in the morning she leaps and runs like a puppy, wanting me to chase her. I do…for awhile but running isn’t my strong suit these days.

I often wonder how long I will live. I’m perfectly resigned to death, truly I am, but Gloria Steinem once told me she wants to live at least to 100. When I asked her why, she answered, “I want to see how things turn out.” That was about 15 years ago and I didn’t share her desire then but now I do. I want to see how things turn out or at least if they’re headed in the right direction. Has the country made real progress in ridding ourselves of white supremacy and fossil fuels? Have we done what’s needed to address the climate crisis? I have to assume Joe Biden will get elected because otherwise I don’t need to wait to know how things will turn out. Another 4 years of that guy will put us on an irreversible spiral downward that, because of the climate crisis, we will not recover from. Please, all of you who can vote in the U.S., please register and make sure you and everyone you know votes.

Well, that paragraph wasn’t exactly calming. But, hey, that’s how I think. Speaking of, even though I come from a long line of depressives, I’m not one anymore. I used to be but hard work on myself has changed the wiring in my brain, I think. You can do that, you know. Brains are plastic (as in malleable) and if we repeatedly have a more positive response to things that used to sadden us or disturb us, we can cause the neural pathways to change. Reading books about this and therapy and meditation help.

As I write this, I can’t help but feel my privilege at having had access to these healing things. But then again, lots of people do but don’t improve. You have to want to change and be able to internalize, metabolize, what you learn and experience.

I’ve also learned that bad things, sad things, can also teach you a lot if you work at making that so. I wrote a book called Prime Time published by Random House that dedicates several chapters to all of this.

Age has a lot to do with feeling more positive. Longitudinal studies of 100s of 1000s of people have been done that show that life gets easier, less anxious, less hostile, and holds more sense of well-being after 50 years and that is true for men, women, straight, gay, married, single. Of course, one’s health can change this. If one is dealing with a severe illness or trauma this “positivity” as scientists call it, may not be true.

Psychologists are not certain why this “positivity” is true but some of the reasons they suggest are that older people have so much life behind them. They’ve experienced hardships –death of loved ones, financial setbacks, etc—and they survived. So the “been-there-done-that- and-it-didn’t-kill-me” factor is at work. Older people tend to not make mountains out of mole hills but instead, make lemonade out of lemons. They tend to know what’s important to them and what they can let go. So life become lighter. My eyesight is going but my insight is more acute. It may also have something to do with changes in the brain itself.

In my late 60s and early 70s I was aware that things just didn’t roil me as they used to and I thought this very nice turn of events was something unique to me. Then, while researching Prime Time at Stanford’s Center for Longevity, I learned about the “positivity factor” and realized I was simply part of the aging majority that experience this.

So there’s something to look forward to for all my younger followers.

You know, when something frightens me, I try to learn everything I can about it, make it my friend. That’s why I wrote Prime Time. I was scared of aging. Not anymore.

Hah! This blog didn’t turn out anything like I thought it would when I began.

I’ll end here while I’m ahead.

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  1. Jane, you are my inspiration. I’m a Brazilian girl, I’m eighteen years old and I’m an actress. My reality is a little different from yours and I love to follow your routine. Your book “my life so far” is so important in my life, it has helped me to overcome many problems and I identify so much with you. Thanks for your wonderful posts. I have to ask a question, do you ever plan to return to Brazil?

  2. Always love reading your blogs, lovely Jane! I’m in Melbourne, Australia and struggling with the lockdown. Reading blogs of other people’s days takes me away from the here and now. Incidentally, did one of your workouts this morning – the easy one, as my body’s getting more sensitises I get older. Please post again soon, I look forward to it. Best, Kathryn 🙂

  3. As I step over the midpoint of my 70’s I find it so helpful, and fun, to see how, no matter how much we have, our basic needs are all so similar. Reading, caring, grandchildren, and a bit of food.
    I love reading your blog and my little pup wakes me by 6:45…staring in my face. 🙂

  4. Hi Jane!

    I’m really enjoying these blog posts! They are taking me back to the time when you were on broadway in 33 Variations and you’d always blog about your day and sweet little Tulea. Glad to hear she still has that puppy energy at 15 ½! I still remember that story about her making her “broadway debut” as she ran out onstage during the curtain call. Too cute!

    I like what you said about Biden and I think it’s important to get in the mindset that he is going to win. For me, it’s the only way to get through this tough, confusing time in America. I am constantly amazed by the people who are out on the streets protesting and doing all that they can to make sure our politicians are held accountable. I fear that if we don’t all come together and back Biden, we may have a repeat of 2016. I was a Bernie supporter from the beginning, but Biden is our only chance to save the environment and I think he can be persuaded to make the necessary changes to do what is needed to stop catastrophic effects of the climate crisis. With 45, that will not happen for sure.

    Thanks again for all you are doing with Fire Drill Fridays. The weekly zoom calls have kept me sane and I find myself going back to watch the archived videos all the time. The one with Jamie Margolin in particular really resonated with me! I have signed up to volunteer with FDF and am just waiting to hear back so I can get started and do all that I can to help!

    xx Robin

  5. Hi Jane, I am happy to see that you and some Americans have the hope that with the new election things can change. Here in Brazil we went through a nefarious moment and it seems that it will never end. The president is not qualified for the position he takes, he is extremely arrogant, he does not care about the environment and much less about people. During the pandemic, deforestation in the Amazon increased 51% more than the same period last year. And you know what’s the worst? about 50% of the Brazilian population still supports him and they want him to be re-elected in 2022. Sorry about that, but I want you to know what is happening in South America. Virtual hug

    • Joana, Tomorrow, my Fire Drill Friday will feature the Amazon and its indigenous peoples with guests Alice Braga (Sonya’s nice) and Tica Minami, Greenpeace Brazil

      • Hi Jane, I am new on here I have been doing your workouts which I love, and then I was flicking through sky and there you were a whole programme about your life, I had no idea about the things you fought for and believed in and I really enjoyed it!

        I am also loving your blogg your dog sounds and looks adorable, your workouts have helped me get over a nasty riding accident I had a few years ago, I broke my leg and I just couldn’t get it to work again it’s almost as strong as my good leg now, so thank you xx

  6. I am always so glad to read your thoughts and it is certainly really inspiring to see you always working towards the good of others. And it’s great that you share both your optimistic and your alarming thoughts.

    But I realized I never connected the dots: thanks to Mrs. America, my generation got a new introduction to your good friend, the great Gloria Steinem whom you mentioned here. What did you think of her portrayal? I thought Rose Byrne (a magnificent actress) gave a terrific performance and I was shocked to find that she wasn’t nominated for an Emmy. Have you seen that show? I thought it was really profound and certainly relevant. I know most people tuned in to see Cate Blanchett being THE villain, but I myself stayed because of the portrayal of great ladies like Gloria Steinem, Bella Abzug etc.

    • Danbiel, I did see Mrs American and also liked the performamnces but today I will post an article that Gloria Steinem co-wrote today about the show. Hope you can read it.

      • Thank you for sharing that article, Jane. It was great to hear from the great Ms. Steinem herself – and I am happy to have more context about this being a more complex issue than Schlafly’s personal vendetta.

        I am still glad the show was made for two reasons:
        1. I consider myself very much into history and I got to learn more about great women like Gloria, Bella Abzug, Betty Friedan, Shirley Chisholm…
        2. It may have gotten the whole context wrong about the economic background of these issues. However, I do have to disagree in a way with the article that the show does inspire you to go out and make a change in November. It does show there is a LOT at stake. And I feel that does a great job of the “banality of evil” and how fear takes over the rational thinking.

        However, if I am brutally honest to myself, I have to admit that I started this show to see this showdown between great actresses – and I have to agree that it is very wrong to use such an important issue to provide people with that. And providing a more complex picture would have been much much much more important than entertainment value.

        Thank you for sharing and letting all of us educate ourselves! Take care ❤️

  7. Hi Jane
    I’m hoping you will narrate an audio version of your new book?
    I like to multitask – mostly walk while I read/listen. Not only do I like to hear the author’s voice but I retain it better.
    Thanks for everything Jane
    Best,
    Shellee

    • Shellee, I have just finished the audio version!

      • It just occurred to me: it would be amazing if you did an audio-version of The Grapes of Wrath.

  8. Jane, thank you, you don’t feel guilty for writing about your daily life, you help us more than you imagine, today you made me cry, I miss my dog ​​and my husband says that she misses me more, she sleeps in my pillow and when we do FaceTime hear my voice and look for me, she has been sick my grandson and I talk to her and she goes crazy please write a few times about your daily life.Love you💕💕

  9. Good afternoon Jane,

    I think it is so amazing that you have learned these things about yourself and have committed to helping others do the same. You have become a great role model for young people like myself who want to live long and fulfilling lives.

    For younger generations growing up during the climate crisis along with many other things, the future may not always seem bright. How can we actively try to stay positive and hopeful both now and as we grow older?

    Looking forward to tomorrow’s Fireside Fire Drill!

    Sincerely,
    Chelsey

    • I haven’t read your story yet on How I spend my days….I will read it after this post. I just wanted to start by saying, How I love the Grace and Frankie show. I just accidentally found it looking to watch something. I find it to comforts me. I know it might sound stupid to many. But I have recently lost my sister she was disabled since childhood. I watch the show before bedtime and the show ends with a good nite. Nice. Anyway….I see that you are a strong women and always been active. I admire that. For all women to express our voice. I am considering doing some expressing my voice for the disabled. They desperately need our help. It gives me something to do. Also following eating healthy and getting back to shape. I want to say Thank You for the show Grace and Frankie. People love you….remember that !!! Also give a hello and send my love to Lily Tomlin. I used to watch her as a kid in her big chair. Send my love also to Martin Sheen I watched the west wing and loved it. Also to law and order Sam Waterston.

      • Oh and now I will read How I spend my days ….I’m interested.

        • I love …love your blog and I will get your books and tee shirts soon….I wish you could have tee shirts with Grace and Frankie on them. I love your videos especially with all the crew doing a script read. I don’t engage in media stuff … I have no face book nor Instagram etc. You are the first media group I have engaged in and now I see it. If you want to be involved, have a caused you must must be engaged. I love you and don’t know how you keep up with everything. Feel bad I’m another person grabbing your attention. 💝

  10. Jane, about the fact that you often wonder how long will you live, and that you are perfectly resigned to death …you know that what Gloria Steinem did by wanting to live 100 years is setting the intention. This is an extremely important “nutrient” for our mind, because as you said by giving him repeatedly the “command” to folllow the same path our intentions become realities. I believe that older people shouldn’t give up on the intention to life no matter the age, and shouldn’t surrender not even for a moment. Any new breath is a triumph and a blessing. One of my grandfather’s brothers is still living and he is 93 years old. He has some serious heart problems. I remember that one time he wasn’t feeling very well and the family called the ambulance. The paramedics refused to take him to the hospital given his age and he didn’t gave up on him. He told them that he wants to go to the hospital because he wants TO LIVE. So, if you want to see what happens on planet Earth in the next few years, just set the intention!
    love you and stay safe XXX

    • I will ‘set the intention’, Nicoleta

      • Speaking of elders, I wonder if you’ve seen the Japanese movie “The Ballad of Narayama”, winner of Palme D’Or Cannes Film Festival in 1983?!
        “In a small village in a valley everyone who reaches the age of 70 must leave the village and go to a certain mountain top to die. If anyone should refuse he/she would disgrace their family. Old Orin is 69. This winter it is her turn to go to the mountain. But first she must make sure that her eldest son Tatsuhei finds a wife.”
        Maybe the story is not real, and it’s just Japanese folklore. But it’s still a sensitive topic considering how elders are treated nowadays.
        sending you my good vibes XXX

  11. Hi Jane,

    I always enjoy reading your blogs and have learnt a lot from both them and yourself in general.

    Tulea is gorgeous and I had to laugh at how she wakes you up – I have a four year old cat called Charlie who wakes me up at a similar time by sitting on my pillow and playing with my hair!

    I’m fascinated by the possibility of changing the wiring in your brain – it’s something that i’m trying to do at the minute to combat my anxiety and depression. I took a lot away from your book ‘My Life So Far’ and it had a really positive effect on how I view myself, my life expectations as I get older, etc. I’ve just started ‘Prime Time’ and am particularly looking forward to the chapters that you’ve just mentioned.

    Take care! Sending love from England.

    Laura. xx

    • Update: I’ve just finished ‘Prime Time’ – same as ‘My Life So Far’, I couldn’t put it down!

      Thanks for being a constant inspiration in my life. You’ve taught me so much about so many things, including myself!

      Laura. xx

  12. Hi Jane..been inspired by you over the years..instagram is such a great platform to follow people. I live in Cape Town..things are pretty crazy here at the moment. Feels a little communistic as opposed to a democratic country.
    My sister lives in San Francisco..definitely voting for Biden!
    My Mom recently turned 100..6th February..gracious beautiful lady..asked her what her secret to her longevity was…she said she didn’t know..and when she finds out she will share the info..!!
    Interesting you have a dog who is getting on in years and deaf…I have a cat that will be 20 in November…also completely deaf…staring blankly at random things…just when I think he is really old…he jumps up onto kitchen counter and makes off with a piece of cheese.
    Keep challenging climate change..
    Ps…I just finished watching Grace and Frankie…lovely light viewing under this current stress
    Hard to think that in August last year I was in DC……
    Heard there was another season of G and F….
    Photography is my hobby….keeps me positive….
    Take care
    Sue

  13. Jane:
    I hope You read this.
    Just an old Vietnam Vet who wants to say he loves You for all You have done for America

    • Awww, always grateful to hear from “an old Vietnam Vet.” Glad you’re ok. I’m speaking at the Veterans For Peace conference next week.

  14. Ms. Fonda,

    Thank you for being who you are. We live in such chaotic times and your voice,written and spoken, is a like a balm.

    I’m in my mid 40s and have just added “Prime Time” to my reading library and have pre-ordered your new book. In the midst of what the world is experiencing, self-care has become priority. I love meditation, PBS, yoga, and walking (downloaded the “old school” Walkouts to walk outside). Plus, exercise is crucial to my mental health.

    Again, thank you for sharing your thoughts and truth. You are appreciated and respected. I hope you and your extended family stay safe and well.

    Love and Light,
    Paul Greene

  15. Thanks so much, Jane, for these posts and all you do with FDF. You are such an inspiration to me and a real example of intersectional feminism. I know it’s gauche to post this here, but I DM’ed you on Instagram about something my literary agent tried to send before COVID hit. I’d love it if you could check your message requests so we can mail you my book and a small token of my appreciation.

  16. Jane, thank you for keeping this blog. It’s great to hear about your daily life and most of all your thoughts about life and things around you. Please don’t stop! Especially in challenging times like now, cause we all have our daily lives and little problems and concerns and it’s good when you can share them. I was talking to a friend of mine (she is in her early 60th) and I asked her if she had a dream. She said in her age she doesn’t have dreams, she has plans. I wanted to ask the same question to you. Do you have a dream, Jane? And if so, what is it about? (If you can share this with us of course). All the best to Tulea, she is such a lovely dog 🐕

  17. 12 years in 25 days – I read your blog in full, Jane. It is an amazing story and I am so glad you shared it with all of us. And I am very much looking forward to the new chapters.

    I wish you would see my country from a different angle – the wonderful people that we have, rich and tragic history, beautiful cities and amazing places, where nature is untouched and so beautiful. It is a shame that politics get in between people and nations, while we all live on one planet and are indeed one human race.

    I am sending you my love and gratitude for coming to my life. You said in one of your blogs that you are amazed that Netflix brought that much attention to your persona and your voice on various matters is heard differently. I think it is a great reflection of the world rules today and I wish more people like you (not those Instagram empty faces with luxury accessories) got voice through all available channels to be heard on a big scale.

    I wish you happiness and joy, strong health and much energy and let all your loved ones be healthy and safe. Let every day of yours come with a smile. From far away Sakhalin island, Karine

  18. Ha ha ha thanks for the blog post. Even though it had “heavy” issues in it, it was still lighthearted and calming to read. Also, I suffer from Major Depressive Disorder and have been for 3 years now. I thank my lucky stars everyday that being from Newfoundland, Canada I have access to a free family doctor, psychiatrist, psychologist, occupational therapist and medication. But it is still the hardest thing I have ever dealt with and I very much agree with you that understanding the science of it helps. For me personally, it’s 75% a chemical imbalance of the brain so searching for the right medication has been high on the list. (And not to get too serious, but I’ve recently fallen into serious suicidal thoughts and reached out in many ways. One of which being searching for a book from the first person point of view on this issue. Just in case anyone out there is in the same boat, I highly recommend the book “Hello I Want to Die Please Fix Me” by Anna Mehler Paperny.) But I’m over the moon to report that my newest medication is doing wonders!!! It’s amazing how 1 tiny pill a day can bring you back to your real self.

    Anyway, I think I did the exact same thing as you and typed a lot heavier than I initially intended – lol. But hopefully I didn’t bum anyone out. PS: I pre-ordered your new book today!

  19. Jane, you’re such an inspiration for me. I turned 60 my last birthday and was a bit down about it. But seeing you and all your involved in really brings it home that I’ve got miles to go before I sleep. I wish there was more I could do. I did a BLM demonstration in my neighborhood and it felt good to be involved. Mostly very young people. I just think you’re my role model even though I’m falling short. With the added bonus that my mom looked very much like you but was your polar opposite. So sometimes I feel like I’m watching mom finally get “with it”. Haha You’re such a ray of sunshine. If you ever need bail money just send me an email. I got you.

  20. your dog is an angel by your side does not need to hear your voice because it really hears the voice of your heart.
    I spend my days inside with many animals around me and what I do is try to write a story good enough for you to perform. I need help producing it but it is ready when you are.

  21. Thank you for sharing your stories with us. You are such an inspiration and a wonderful human being! I love that you are blunt, something I sometimes got in trouble for, we Germans tend to tell it like it is and some don’t want to hear it 😉
    I have had such high hopes when I became a citizen under President Obama.
    The environment was always dear to my heart, I guess the school system in Germany played a major role in educating us early on, but it was never enough, always a struggle to educate people. When I met my husband 30 years ago I was stunned how little America cared. Now I am scared that everything that was accomplished will vanish. I hope people in the US will vote this disaster of a president out. It’s sad to have to think about how disastrous another four years would be in so many ways. I am scared for my daughter who for the first time in her life is scared of people because she is of mixed race. I can’t imagine staying here if he will be reelected…

    I love that you take such good care of your Tulea! Dogs are such wonderful souls, the connection we share is special beyond words. Love Jutta and Golden Retriever Indica

  22. Very good teaching today, thanks Jane for all the time and effort you dedicate to making the world better for our grandchildren.🔥🔥🙌🏼🙌🏼

  23. Hi Jane,

    I recently have been watching the new docuseries with Zac Efron called Down to Earth on Netflix. One episode explores Sardinia, where there are some of the longest life expectancy rates in the world. Called a Blue Zone because of the number of centenarians per capita, Efron talks to researchers and locals about what it means to live a long, healthy life, from food to attitude. Very interesting! I’ve just hit, I think what you describe as, my second act. My friend and I talk all the time about what it is that people who are now in their 70’s and 80’s prioritize in their lives and what makes them thrive. As you have mentioned, finding things to be passionate about helps our daily focus. Certainly, I have found a renewed sense of purpose through volunteering with Friday Drill Fridays and participating in protests! As a teacher, I am of the mindset you should never stop being a student, and you certainly are the perfect embodiment of that ideal! Such an inspiration!

    Keep fighting the good fight!
    Jen

  24. Dear Jane,
    Ever since I first met you in Atlanta in the late 90s, I have followed with interest your public life and I sort of peeked into your private life too. Our paths have crossed a few times and when I moved downtown Atlanta, I would bump into Ted on Luckie Street…we both felt responsible for keeping the neighborhood tidy.
    All that is to situate who I am as a real person, to lead up to how and why your blog post resonated with me, and hoping you would continue reading:
    …”So the “been-there-done-that- and-it-didn’t-kill-me” factor”…
    I’m in my super 60s and loving my life. My explicative 40s very nearly killed me, seriously. In 2015 I tried unsuccessfully to watch Grace and Frankie… I really am Grace and Frankie myself. My life and I were NOT entertaining or amusing. Today, hundreds of people like me survive the disclosure of their partners and remain voiceless while their partners are celebrated for living their truth. We pick up the pieces, often alone, always shunned and shamed. We look for each other and support each other. I reassure newbies on this journey with your words, “been-there-done-that-and-it-didn’t-kill-me” in the hope that the person I am speaking to will make it too.
    Thank you for inspiring and thank you for the good works you and your foundation carry on.

  25. Jane,
    I know you are super busy I just wanted to let you know that I loved this blog post and your last one. Thank you. My mom and Dad complained about that bill being over and it’s their party who isn’t helping? Ugg. I asked my mom if she saw any of the Lincoln Projects ads and of course she said yes I kinda forgot she works at Nbc 26 and has something to do with commercials. She said they are ridiculous. So I’m going to take your advice and just let it go. I love my parents, but it is just frustrating. I am surrounded by republicans most of my friends and family. I feel at a loss. We don’t talk politics. I want you to know something ever since I discovered you on G+F I am a different person. I have a different outlook on life and people. I am very passive and introverted, but since fire drill Friday’s I have done so many things that surprised me!! I feel I have more confidence I am sticking up for myself at work and with family. I will be turning 41 aug 9th and I’m scared. I’m not sure why. My second act. I feel I have changed though, it’s still scary. I have your book Primetime I wasn’t sure when I should read it. I hope that’s not a dumb question. I’m sorry if this is all over the place. I hope this isn’t narcissistic. I’m really just trying to relate. I hope some day I will be able to meet you in person and tell you how grateful I am. You are so personable and honest to everyone. Thank you Jane for everything you do.
    Stay safe
    Stacey

    • Thanks for this, Stacey. Now’s the time to read “Prime Time.” forties are hard for many women. Not all, but many. It’s largely a hormonal thing. I talk about that in Prime Time.

      • hey jane,

        i’m so gutted i didn’t get a chance to see your “an evening with…” in london, with graham norton. is there any chance you would have london on one of your tours again?

        kate xoxo

        • Kate, truthfully, I don’t know if I will want to travel ever again.

          • that’s okay, jane, i understand. do you mean travelling around the states too?— or just internationally?

            much love, kate

          • internationally. xx

          • Thank you Jane, I will only wait for Trump to stop being president, and I will meet you when you make your presentations again.

      • Thank you Jane. I was wondering about when pre menopause starts. I’m sure that’s in your book. I know it’s different for everyone. I tried to ask my mom we don’t really talk about that type of stuff ever so I will start reading your book. I just feel different so.
        Take care,
        Stacey
        Stacey

  26. Jane, it was my 28th birthday this week and my favourite gift was my Jane Fonda mug shot mug! My daily reminder while drinking my morning coffee, to live boldly and work to carry myself with grace.
    I love this blog post; curious about any book suggestions you have on the rewiring of brain neural pathways? I’m a chef and have been wanting to study how food has an influence on improving mood and adjusting brain chemicals. Not sure what this study would be, but looking into it. I’ve worked through an anxiety disorder and have witnessed a family member with bi-polar, so fascinated by the topic and how the brain ticks. I know it’s a complex topic but would love to find a way to help people make lifestyle and diet changes to assist in the healing process of depression.

    Prime time is on my audiobook list, so it’ll be up next. Nearly finished with Michelle Obama’s book.
    I listened to My life so far about a year ago and gifted the book to my mom. So it will be good to get another dose of Jane wisdom 🙂

  27. You got to be kidding us Jane. You will want to wait even if that piece of trash is reelected (like Whoopy Goldberg, I never prononce his name). You will want to be around and keep fighting for all the causes you mention in your post and more. So I tell ya, you are not going anywhere girl ha! All of us must keep fighting, if not for ourselves, at least let’s do it for our children and grand children right until our last breath like true heroes. They deserve it.

    My grand mother had 13 children, survived two wold wars, poverty, an abusive husband and the most dire living conditions. She lived to 102. You never know when it’s your turn but I can well imagine you living even longer than that so you will not only be able to witness your children and grand children growing and evolving but also continue to inspire us all like you always have. Jane, the world is a better place with remarkable and inspiring human beings like you in it.

    With love
    JF

  28. Your my favorite actor!!! I’m 16 years old and I love you and lily Tomlin so much!!!! Your so beautiful

  29. Hi Jane!
    I signed up for my first shift volunteering with Fire Drill Fridays/Greenpeace and will be texting voters in California this week to ask that they contact their Senators to demand legislation that will stop local drilling. Also super excited because we will be inviting Greenpeace supporters to join the volunteer call to promote the new electoral program in partnership with FDF! I’ve been following and watching each rally and teach-in from the beginning and am thrilled to finally be able to lend a hand and get to work. I am so passionate about this movement and am grateful for all you’ve done to help bring to light the urgency of the climate crisis. This is such an important year and I just know we’re all going to make a big difference together!

    xx Robin

    • Terrific, Robin. Thanks for letting me know and thanks for volunteering. Lt me know how it goes. That bill you’re supporting is CRITICAL

      • Hi Jane,
        Just finished my first text-banking shift as a volunteer and it went really well! I sent out 1,000 messages in total, and overall, the response was overwhelmingly positive. Though I of course did not hear back from everyone, the majority were ready and willing to take a moment out of their day to contact their Senators and demand legislation for common sense health and safety buffer zones in CA! I’m really looking forward to continuing this each week to help spread the word to as many people as I can. It really makes me feel good to see that so many people are supportive of this vital bill! I signed up for a call next week to learn about what else we can do as volunteers as we get closer to the election, and will be writing postcards too when the time comes. I’ve reached out to friends and family and encouraged them to sign up with Greenpeace and Fire Drill Fridays to join me! The more people we have in this fight, the better! What a powerful movement this is.

        Much love,
        Robin

  30. Hola Jane, está bien que escribas como te sientes, con mucho esfuerzo ha obtenido curarte de la depresión, es muy interesante lo que dices sobre la edad y la forma de enfrentar los problemas, mi enhorabuena por haber obtenido este nivel de bienestar contigo misma, eres una persona muy resistente y te admiro profundamente. Tu actitud frente a la muerte es la mejor que puedes tener, tienes muchos motivos por lo que vivir y luchar, esto es fundamental y por tanto suma años a tu vida. Gracias por tu sinceridad y recibe un fuerte abrazo de Isabel.

  31. I have been following your blog/read your books/seen many of your movies for years..and have enjoyed all..I just wanted to bring to your attention an American /Political Historian..Heather Cox Richardson..She is a FT professor at Boston College..She has an amazing ability to clarify and analyze our present USA current events like none I have ever read before..She produces a daily summary of the previous 24 hour events under the title “Letters from an American.”..She works by herself other than having a technician to help produce her video’s..She stays up frequently till 3-6 a.m. in the morning researching the news of the previous day…As she says, she does so because the USA is in crisis..She is so Amazing! She is on FB and has a substack.com venue under her name.. A couple of days ago she did a podcast with Bill Moyer..on Democracy..She started 1 hour video’s from her home in Maine, on American Politics and also American History..She does these live videos every Tues./Thurs..both on topics of history and politics..They are So interesting..and that says alot from someone who had so little interest in history during my schooling..Anyway..I just think she is So worth you looking at..She is such an authentic person as well..

    • Thanks for letting us know about Heather. xx

      • I just finished your book and all I can say is, JANE FONDA for PRESIDENT!!!!
        You are fabulous and I loved everything you wrote about!

  32. Hi Jane!
    Thank you for always being so open, honest & real! For us everyday people, being able to get a little insight of how our favorite celebrity lives their daily life is always interesting. Take away all that makes you a celebrity and you’re just like the rest of us!
    I am 37 and have read Prime Time three times already! A must read for anyone. It truly has opened my eyes on me living in my now “second act” and eventually & hopefully “third act.” The book has truly made me excited for all the wonderful things that do come with age & knowing that it is never too late…for anything!
    So thank you for so many reasons (too many to list!)
    Hugs & Kisses to your sweet girl, Tulea!! Dogs do make life so much sweeter. May she always have that youthful spunk to her.

    As long as you’re living we will be here to listen & learn from you! You truly are one amazing woman! This world is a better place because of you!

    Much Love & Respect,
    Kara xo

  33. re: you travelling

    i’m glad you’re still travelling around the states, i will have to save up to fly to you instead— wouldn’t want to miss it, or the opportunity to tell you thank you in person.

    after reading this blog post i watched gloria’s documentary and when she said “i want to live to 100, i love it so much, i never want it to end” i realised i’ve never wanted this, and maybe you felt the same.

    do you have any books that helped you with your depression? therapy is great but it’s expensive. i’m thinking of purchasing gloria’s self-esteem book she mentions in the doc.

    much love,
    kate xoxo

    • Kate, depression can (and often is) due to a chemical imbalance in the brain. If that if the case then you need to have a psychopharmachologist make the determination and prescribe a drug I was on prozac on 2 separate occasions several years apart and it totally helped me. Meditation has helped as well. xx

      • Prozac keeps me out of jail and makes the world a safer place! 🤣

    • The Calm app for meditation is great. Started using it over the weekend to help me sleep and it’s been amazing to still the mind. There’s a month free trial to start and then $5 per month, totally worth it!

  34. Had to pop in and say I took your advise on watching I May Destroy You. WOW! You, of course, were right!! I don’t think I’ve seen such a show so raw and real! Thanks for the recommendation! Did you watch Yesterday’s ( aug 3 ) episode?

    – Alyssa

  35. Watching a video with yourself and Lily I then found out you had a blog! Found it and have now registered.
    You are an amazing woman and I cannot wait to read it all.
    Seeing your shop to, I think a purchase is in order!
    Thank you for being you and everything you’ve done.
    G&F turned my life around, love that show!

  36. Good morning Jane. Just became a new member of your wonderful community and I’m really honored to be here. You are truly a beacon of hope, inspiration, encouragement and empowerment for so many people.

    You have always been one of my favorite actresses.

    Did your Fit & Strong workout this morning. You are really motivating and ever since I made it over the 50 yr hump, it has been a little more challenging to workout, but you bring something to the health table like no one else.

    Thank you so much for all you do!

    With love and gratitude,
    Tammy

  37. Your doggy is a cutie! I have one who is 19 yrs old.

  38. Hi Jane!
    I went to my local post office this morning and overheard a conversation about the postal delivery being very slow. One of the ladies was mailing a birthday card two weeks ahead of time to be sure it reached its destination on time.( I am assuming it was in the US). Jane can we trust the postal service with mail in ballots? Or is this an isolated situation? Come November election, if we’re able to mail in ballots, can we trust that they will arrive on time? I am not familiar with mail in ballots, but I am all for whatever it takes to help everyone vote! Whatever it takes we have to vote!!

    Hope you are having a GREAT day!! How is Lily?

    Elaine Rawls

    • I’m voting by mail and a lot of folks are working hard to support the post office. Congress is calling the new Trump appointed head of the post office to question him about what he’s doing.

      • Thanks Jane! Since asking my question about mail-in ballots, I have contacted my voter registration office and I will be mailing in my ballot.

        Thank you for all that you do! I have learned a lot from you in the last 5 months!!

        Take care and be safe!!

        Elaine Rawls

  39. By the way, regarding Heather Cox Richardson’s daily summary post..read the Aug. 3rd post of “Letters from an American”..Her analysis (As many following her now have said “She is a National Treasure.”) of what DT and party are up to is chilling…I don’t know Heather at all..I am only familiar with her as a recommendation of a FB friend..

  40. Hi Jane!! I’ve always admired you, your work and all you stand for. Firstly, thank you for all of your environmental work, for reminding and inspiring all of us to constantly push for better, for change.
    Soooo, I’m obsessed with Grace & Frankie. I watch and re watch episodes every night before bed. I can’t help to constantly wonder if you and Grace would be similar people in the real world- you play that part so effortlessly that’s I have to remind myself that it’s not real life 🙂
    Do you find a lot of parallels between you & Grace in personality etc?

    Thank you for sharing your days with us in this blog, it’s lovely to get to know you better.
    Xo
    Colleen

  41. Jane, you’ve been with me through thick and thin, and I am so grateful! Originally from the USA, I’ve lived in Israel for all of my adult life. I live in an area that suffers periodically from rocket attacks. Grace & Frankie became my TV sisters in the bomb-proof room, and continued to keep me company through all of the seasons. (I was in seriously withdrawal when the last season ended). Now with COVID upon us, you’re helping me to keep fit. My abs have never been so engaged! When my 91 year old Mom in CT fell ill and it was impossible to fly over to be with her, you helped me to keep my sanity. My Mom was the type of woman that you will certainly continue to be: trim, fit, beautiful, intelligent, and glad to dispense smart advice. Thank you for being there for me!

  42. Hi Jane i live in Austria ; in Vienna and i ve two little french bulldogs; one of them is deaf too and acts like yours 😀 i am a huge fan of you fighting for women s rights

  43. Jane💕
    I’m writing to you in complete gratitude and admiration over the remarkable legacy you continue to live out today. Turning 19 this week and I absolutely cannot wait to age beautifully & successfully just as you have. I was sent home from film school in the U.S due to this pandemic, and my passion for film has somewhat leveled down. Although seeing your work increased my love for film, it left me the impression of what a hard-working woman achieves in life. Totally stoked about these blogs and can’t wait to hear from you soon. Lots of love from Indonesia!

  44. Jane,
    I have read 3 chapters of your book primetime and I’m already learning so much. I looked back in my childhood 1 event sticks out. I was diagnosed with ADHD in second grade plus I wrote glasses. By 4th grade all the teachers and playground aides knew me. Especially if I forgot to take my medication. I’m not exactly sure what grade I was in, but we had to walk up stairs to the playground where we met every morning. Two boys would block me from going in the playground. This one time I will never forget I looked into the eyes of the playground aide like help me she turned around and walked the other way as I started to cry. That happened for about 1 week until I told my mom I didn’t want to go to school anymore. That had to be a defining moment of how I would feel about myself . I just had a good cry over it. I am also Eeyore. I always have thought negative about anything. Like we will never win this game. I am going to fail this test. I look back and think my Dad did the same thing. Always negative. Hmm. I have decided I’m going to try meditation and go back to therapy helped me a lot . So thank you. This book is going to help me a lot!! I’m also going to write my life review.
    Love always,
    Stacey

  45. Jane,
    ❤️❤️ Today’s Fire drill rally was great! I signed up for the Wedsnday webinar. I can’t wait to start volunteering!!!
    Love always,
    Stacey

  46. Hi Jane!

    The Fire Drill Friday rally was truly amazing today! The videos were extremely moving. I look forward to Fire Drill Fridays every week and I have learned so much from you and all of the great speakers.

    I started texting for Greenpeace a few weeks ago and have been taking shifts three days per week. It has been such a great experience to be able to help ensure that people will vote and take other important actions that will help our planet. While most people I’ve reached out to have been positive or at least neutral, I was surprised by some of the extremely hostile and rude responses. I expected some people to be apathetic, but I did not expect disturbing and rude responses about animals and nature. It was really eye opening, but I understand that encountering really unpleasant people is just a part of this important work. Knowing that I’m helping to get people to vote and become more active in caring for our planet makes it all worth it!

    I’m very excited about the upcoming call with you next week where we will learn about further volunteer opportunities! I can’t wait to get more involved. In addition to texting, I’d love to make calls and participate in the postcard initiative. During the pandemic I made over 500 calls to unemployed service industry workers to get money to them from the One Fair Wage emergency fund. So I have a bit of practice! I’m also really eager to learn more about the 6 week training that will give us the tools to help us become leaders in the climate movement. I’m so grateful that Fire Drill Fridays/Greenpeace is doing this for us and our planet!

    I’ve been volunteering for the Biden campaign for over a year now and I love how much of the work I will be doing with Fire Drill Fridays will be sort of an extension of that work since we are reaching out to voters. I’m a millennial so I’m fully aware that many of my peers (as well as Gen Z) are not super excited about Biden, but I definitely agree with you that he is persuadable as far as climate issues are concerned. The issue of climate has actually been brought up pretty often during Biden for President meetings and events that I’ve been a part of. I know we will still need to push him to do so much more, but I’m optimistic if we can get him to win in November. We just have to make this happen. I’m doing my best to get anyone I know who is considering sitting this election out or voting for a third party candidate to change their mind. It isn’t easy.

    Thank you so much for everything! I’m looking forward to our call on Tuesday! I can’t wait to get more involved!

    Jenny xoxo

  47. Hi Jane,

    I finished your memoirs a few days ago and I would just like to say how much of an inspiring, amazing and wonderful woman you are!

    I graduated from drama school last year and at the age of 25, I’m just starting my journey of working on myself as a person. I’ve been through therapy for quite a while and I resonate completely with aspects of some f your experiences which you mention in your memoirs. Especially with lack of self confidence and trying to be kind to yourself. I just wanted to ask what advice would you give to someone who is starting this journey of discovering their authentic self?

    I have a very very very long way to go yet but I just wondered if you have any advice for me on that?

    I think you’re a strong and incredible human being to go through what you have gone through. And to have reached a point where you are comfortable in your own skin and with who you are, or at least closer to your authentic self than before. I admire you as an activist and as an actress. You use your creativity, not for fame or self gratification, but for worthy causes and to highlight issues within our society. I truly admire that.

    So thank you so much for being who you are and you have made such a difference to my life. Your example has taught me to look further within myself and start to work on myself more so I thank you so much for that. You must get messages like this all the time but I just wanted to share this with you.

    Thank you so much Jane. Lots of love from the UK.

    Victoria xx

  48. Hi, Jane,
    I was so glad to find your homepage after I started to watch ‘Grace & Frankie’ on Netflix JAPAN.
    The COVID19 issue is going worse in JAPAN also, specially in TOKYO & OSAKA, so that makes us stay home as much as possible.
    One thing which is really good thing happended to me during this COVID19 issue is start watching Netflix to find the great program of ‘Grace & Frankie’.
    Hope you are doing well overthere in USA

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