VALENTINE’S DAY—A LITTLE LATE

Art Linson, June Newton, Fiona Linson, me, Richard, Bob Evans, Nikki Haskell, Eva Chow

Art Linson, June Newton, Fiona Linson, me, Richard, Bob Evans, Nikki Haskell, Eva Chow

with Richard


I only just got the photos from the Valentine’s Day party thrown at the Chateau Marmont by June Newton, the lively, brave widow of Helmut Newton. Many of her long-time friends were there. Some are also old friends of mine. Bob Shaye was there but only for cocktails so he wasn’t in the photos of our table. Irving Blum was there who had one of the great galleries of modern American art (he’s retired now) and was close friends with Dennis Hopper, Brooke Hayward and me. I hadn’t seen him in ages. Author Scott Berg was there. I got to know him when he wrote the fine authorized biography of Katharine Hepburn and we compared notes.

Bob Evans complimented me on my new, short haircut and I said, “Thanks. I just had some ‘work’ done on my chin and neck and had the bags taken away from under my eyes so I decided it would be good to get a new hair cut so people will think it’s my new hair.” He thought that was so funny he actually toasted me for doing what he said he’d never heard anyone do before: admit they’d had work done. I was planning on blogging about it anyway so who cares? I’m writing a book about aging so I couldn’t very well NOT talk about it. It’s been 2 weeks. I was in front of the camera all day yesterday and was photographed at Eve Ensler’s luncheon 9 days after the procedure so, obviously, it went well. I swore in 2000 I’d never have anything done again but this year I got tired of not looking like how I feel and I wanted a more refined chin line like I used to have so I changed my mind. I’m still a little swollen but not much and what pleases me is that I won’t looked pulled or weird…or tired all the time. And my crows feet are still alive and well. I wish I’d been brave enough to not do anything but, instead, I chose to be a somewhat more glamorous grandma.

So there.

See you next time.

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  1. You look so good. Whoever did your work is an artist. You keep good company. Looks like a wonderful Valentines celebration.

  2. Age isn’t nothing but a number, and an insurance plan. Glad your holiday was rosy and sweet.

  3. You look wonderful and love the new hair!

  4. I love the new hairdo. You look about 30 on those photos, though I wish you didn’t have the glasses on…beautiful eyes. 🙂

    • thanks, but I still had black and blue bruises under my eyes. Not any more though.

  5. Jane, when I met you in person three years ago, you looked very young and beautiful. I have a bunch of photos of you, but most didn’t turn out because the lighting was off and I had a new camera. I didn’t think you needed anything done then. However, I think that is a personal decision and as long as the work turns out well…more power to you. I’m too scared to have work done.

    I don’t like when famous people lie about it though. I think lying damages young girls’ self esteem especially. Being honest about it earns respect, imho. Not to mention, it isn’t like everyone knows all the men and women in the movie industry haven’t had a lot of work done. I remember Cheryl Ladd talking about hers too and she looks great. The ones that still look like themselves have good doctors. I do think it is sexist how the media always focuses on women having work done, and not the men. You can see how men get smaller noses, facelifts, etc. throughout their careers, and no one talks about it unless they are severe like MJ. Even CEOs and other execs have work done.

  6. absolutely nothing wrong with being a glamorous grandma! You look wonderful!

  7. I think it takes more ‘bravery’ to have ‘work’ done! Your explanation was great and understandable. (Wonder if you’ll tell us the name of the procedure that can remove ‘bags’, trim chin, neck and still leave crows feet!)
    Your new hair style is very flattering too!
    Think you’ll ever ‘go gray’??

    • It isn’t a face lift. It is only done on the chin and neck. Another doctor smoothed out the bags under my eyes. Didn’t touch anything else. I had fat taken away from above my eyes in my late forties and it added decades to my life and my ability to work in film. The eye problem is genetic. Everyone in my family has it.

  8. Love the new do. Most people would have work done if they could afford it. Go for it! You look great.

  9. Hi Jane,
    Thanks for the information on your daily diet. I wasn’t sure if you were strict about what you ate or if it’s genes. Obviously both. It’s interesting you saying that pigging out and extra weight makes you depressed. That’s so true. I worry that being to pernickety about what I eat makes life (and me) boring, but getting on the scales the next day to find out you’ve put on another pound isn’t a bunch of laughs either. I’m going to copy what you wrote to me and keep it with me to motivate me.

    Aaahhh, the surgery. Thought something was up. You look incredible. Why not do it, as long as you can get away with it, which you can because it fits in with the whole complete picture. I just worry that at some point with such surgery that one never knows when to stop and there are many, many people who I just feel sorry for when I look at them. I don’t think you’ll ever be in that category though!

    All the best
    Jason

  10. Did you have your ‘work’ done in Atlanta area? If so, can you recommend your DR?

    • no, here in L.A. Dr Hutcherson. A very nice man.

  11. You looked terrific before, and you will look terrific after. Whatever makes you happy!
    BH

  12. Thanks, Jane, for being open about what you had done, I respect you for that.

    I can’t say I am not a little disappointed this is the choice you made, but I understand why you made it. Especially in the business you are in.

    I just have an unrealistic wish for women in a position of influence to age naturally and gracefully and with their own “earned” faces.
    I know that is unrealistic….but a wish none the less!

    Like Judi Dench, Meryl Streep, Vanessa Redgrave,
    Helen Mirren…I love that they have resisted the pressure…so far! 🙂

    • I hate to burst your bubble Lynn, but with the exception of Streep (and she could have- it just isn’t obvious- though she looks much younger now than in The Hours), those other actresses you listed have had work done…facelifts, eye work, etc. Look at how they looked in their late 40s and early 50s to now. Helen has more than one facelift and a lot of other work. I think they all had good work done, and they are are great actors. I don’t see what the big deal is.

      Jane looks younger and maybe had better skin to begin with, and better doctors. Why beat up on the person who admits to it and compare to people who have had just as much done, but aren’t as public about it? Obviously, Jane was/is somewhat conflicted about her choice as we all can be about choices we make. I think she looks better as she ages not because of the surgeries, but because she looked more vacant in her younger years and now looks more like she is really living her life and it is reflected in the eyes. Very few people live their lives really being present.

  13. You look seriously gorgeous. Go Jane!

  14. I remember a few years ago you said that you and Sally Field had made a pact that you would have no more plastic surgery done, so you could show the real face of aging. It seems that you have gone back on your word and become a raging hypocrite. To think that my 65 year old mother felt so much better when she read that you and Sally decided to age gracefully. You were both her role models. How disappointed she will be to find out about your latest procedures. Same old Jane, it seems. Changing yourself to please a man. And to think you call yourself a feminist. I am ashamed. Thank God there are better role models for aging than you.

    • Yea, I can understand how you feel. I am kind of disappointed in myself as well. Friends say I am brave to have had the work done. I think I’d have shown more courage if I hadn’t. I thought long and hard about it–lomg before I was with a man again. I am all too aware that I have gone back on my pact with Sally. I did not do it ‘to please a man’ though nothing wrong with that. I did it to please me, make me feel better and, hopefully, buy myself a few more years of work as a more glam grandmother.

  15. good on’ya!

  16. As the Aussies would say good on you. I was wondering about the haircut and now I know.

  17. You look wonderful, refreshed and less tired. Totally understand getting “work” done. I plan to get some much need work done as soon as I win the lottery. 🙂

  18. p.s., honey no one wants to look tired all the time. And you are one busy woman.

  19. I was thinking you were looking great, but attributed that to your natural good looks, perhaps some great sleeps and your new hair style. But I have to say, well done! As you mention, it’s very natural looking (at least based on the photos you’ve posted). Given your stature in the media, and the events you attend and get photographed at, I’m not surprised that you and others in similar situations benefit from a little extra and subtle help now and then. More power to you!

  20. You go, girl!!! Looks good. I’m jealous!!!

  21. I love the new hair! Great look. If you want to have a few changes, I say go for it, whatever makes you happy.

  22. Jane, I love your total openness and candidness about every aspect of your life. You are such a REAL person…it is a total joy to read you!

  23. Hi Jane,

    I was so surprised to hear that you had work done after you took such a public stance against plastic surgery. As a younger feminist, I was so happy to hear that older feminists would not give into patriarchal expectations of how women should look. I do admire that you are courageous enough to admit that your actions are not necessarily in accordance with your words. Did you think about the message you would be sending to other feminists when you went ahead and got more work done?

    Maybe we have not made as much progress as I thought.

    • Of course I gave it lots of though and have talked about it to my feminist friends–some of whom have had ‘work’ done and some who haven’t. Most feel what’s important is to not look like a pulled freak with duck lips..though even there compassion is in order because not everyone can afford very good surgeons and some do it wrong and some of us women have been so scared by wanting to look other than we are that we don’t know when to stop. Let’s try to be compassionate, why don’t we. We can have no idea what motivates other men and women to change the way they look. For some it can be the trauma of abuse, overly critical partners (or parents)…not to mention the social norms we live in. My feminist friends will let me know if I’ve gone too far. I don’t think I have because I didn’t have the center of my face lifted.

  24. Disappointed in ya, thought you represented “girl power” …meaning love yourself. Looks have nothing to do about who you are. You are a great woman. I think you succumbed to the hollywood/westcoast mentally which is not the “true mentallity”. Moving here to AZ I was shocked at the emphasis on changing your looks, back east we don’t think about it so much, so it’s not such a lucrative market as it here. I’m just disappointed that you caved and misrepresent
    the middle-aged woman…you have a new workout video coming out…that have anything to do with it..hmmm. Love the new do!

    • I don’t think I misrepresent middle age women. I am just one of the middle aged (actually I am NOT middle age, I am a senior at 72!) who has chosen to look like what I feel rather than what I am chronologically. It had to do with how I FEEL ABOUT MYSELF …and…wanting to get more film work so I can put something away for my grandchildren’s college education. I’m not there yet..

  25. Jane,
    Love your hair! For the rest,I appreciate your simple grace in reaction to the pros and the cons.

    FYI: So far, at age 66, with a yoga practice of some 40 years now,veg diet since 27, and a simple daily acupressure facelift I do for myself(23 years, and takes, maybe, 10 minutes), I’ve managed to still like what I look like. I’d
    like to encourage others to find and use an acupressure facelift routine…it really works when you do it regularly. 30 days shows a defined difference!
    Also, I’m sure facial acupuncture would work wonderfully…I’ve not had funds for that in my budget as yet. I imagine it could be a good option at any time,; but maybe particularly after one has has quite a bit of “work” done and wants to quit, for whatever reasons.
    Blessings on all your endeavors,
    Happy Day!
    RAL*

  26. It sounds like you thought through the work and in the world in which you live, where you can be photographed in any light, at any time, I can understand it. It’s too bad our culture is so age obsessed as you definitely looked beautiful before and after. Sometimes such surgeries are huge mistakes and the people look plastic, not real at all. They might not look their age, but they don’t look younger either. They just lose character. I am glad you didn’t go that far. I don’t know what’s wrong with a glamorous 70 with some lines and sags. It seems though when celebrities choose to age naturally, they receive nothing but flak from the media. Too bad.

  27. Dear Jane,

    Thanks for responding to my comment. I do have compassion. It just seemed like a radical change in stance because you spoke out against surgery so much in the last couple years. You even made references in your book to breast implants and having them removed.

    You and Gloria (S.) are two feminists that make aging seem so cool because you both have style, high cheek bones, and great energy. There is something intrinsic about that type of beauty–but I am pretty sure Gloria publically admitted to surgery too…so it really must come down to personal choice. Just do not think anyone should opt for surgery out of insecurity.

  28. I thought it was your new hairdo.

  29. You look wonderful!

    I dont see anything wrong with trying to look as good/young as you feel!

    Your new fella’s a cutie too!Great smile!

  30. Having read the comments here, I want to add something to what I had written. Jane Fonda is an example of aging positively and gracefully. She is still active in her field. She serves in places that help others and if she feels she needs to do some tucks to continue to move her career ahead or to feel good about herself, it’s not a negative but another example of her doing what she believes is right. It’s an example of her personal courage.

    I get frustrated with feminists who seem to believe there is one way to do anything. The point of feminism is that we can do what we believe is right for us and in this case, she did it. More power to her!

  31. Ye.

  32. I feel sorry for the fact that everything you say or do is seemingly written in stone. Then ten years after saying something opposing cosmetic surgery you change your mind and you’re called a hypocrite. Well, hey, I change my mind sometimes the same day let alone 10 years later. So what? That’s what we’ve got minds for – to change them!! So I don’t understand the hypocrite part here. It’s funny but you would think that a face, the most visible part of us we show to the world, would be ours to own and to do with what we like. But so many people want a say on how we represent ourselves. Strange.

    I think you also have good friends (and some bloggers!) surrounding you, as you say, who would warn you when you’re doing too much. Loved the duck lips bit!!

    All the best from snowy Hamburg
    Jason

  33. Jane, don’t listen to all those women that say you shouldn’t have done it! YOU LOOK WONDERFUL! Very Natural! I love it! You have to do things for yourself and not listen to so called fans! I love your blog, it wonderful that you share part of your life with us! You go girl! I love the haircut too! You look marvelous, but most of all you have a beautiful soul! Ellen

  34. I think you look terrific. I do not see anything wrong or misrepresentational about getting “work done”.

  35. Loved the referral to our age as ‘middle-aged’!!!..Wow…for 72…funny!!! We all age so differently. Some people look ‘old’ at twenty!!My mother used to say “look at the neck” for age clues but nowadays, look at the hands!…or is that next??

    • My hands have always looked ancient. I looked old at 30 and 40. JF

    • I met you at a talk in New York when you were doing the play last year, and I thought your hands were beautiful. I did notice.
      BH

  36. OMG Jane, the haircut looks awesome! You look 20 years younger, I gave a photo of you from 1970 Vogue when you first cut your hair and it is very similar look! Happy Valentine’s Day! I keep mentioning my artwork of you but lots to do & I am still working on it, with love Sammy.

  37. I’m very disappointed. You can spin it any way you want it. What you have said you represent for your life, you do not. This is exactly why girls all over the world think they are ugly when they look at people like you. Why they hurt themselves, pick the wrong men, don’t achieve what they could. You have become what you have preached against all your life. Congratulations. What a shame.

  38. I have to agree with Lee when she/he said :

    “Maybe we have not made as much progress as I thought.”

    I’m disappointed but really….. who cares what the average feminist thinks–except our daughters, when we encourage them NOT to do what I am doing—reading a celebrity blog about getting a face lift to look younger!

    Mona
    ps. if you were doing it to make more money why not put the money you spent on the procedures to put into the grandkids acct? We NEED role models for our girls, where do we find them?

    • Maybe the work part is less about money and the grandkids’ education than wanting to feel vital and work as long as you can. Shatner and Regis are older and have vibrant careers. Both of them have had work done too, but no one talks about it when it is the men doing it. Remember what little hair Shatner had in Star Trek? Or Regis before the face lift?

      These guys do things to their looks to help their careers and longevity. No reason a female actor shouldn’t either if she chooses.

  39. a mountain of comments on this post! i appreciated your exchanges with your bloggers!and one more time your answered straight forward with honesthy ! in fact you’re very young, eager,a lifepassionate character!!! frederique dhenein

  40. Jane-
    You never cease to show how human you are. You’ve always exposed yourself to the public, even when you certainly didn’t have to. As human beings, we are full of contradictions at times. This fact doesn’t make us liars or untrustworthy….Just human…full of insecurities, frailties and yes, compassion, passion and convictions. So Jane, thank you once again for reminding us how alike we all really are.

    With respect and love,

    Bill

    P.S.
    Love that new haircut!!!!!!

  41. Jane,
    Please DON’T listen to anymore criticism you get for having had plastic surgery!! It’s such a PERSONAL issue, and it has nothing to do with being a feminist or a “role model for the middle aged woman…or aging women”!! Women have the right to change their minds about anything…especially anything dealing with their bodies!! I think these comments from people saying how you “let them down” because you had plastic surgery are ridiculous!!!

    I love your new hair style!!:) It suits you! I can understand why you did the procedures you had done! If YOU are happy with the results, that’s the important thing!! Don’t feel like you have to respond to anymore negativity about this! If anyone should say anything negative to you in person about your having plastic surgery say something like,”I’m very happy with the results!” and walk away! No explanation is necessary!!:)

  42. Wow!!! I so love your new hair cut!!!
    And how inspiring to know that 72 doesn’t have to feel like 72!!!

    Congrats on your outside matching your inside!! (Although you looked just fine before too.)

    Cheers to you jane!!

    : )

  43. Call me shallow, Jane… but I don’t think you ever really own your face until you’ve paid something towards its partial restoration. 😉

  44. First, wow — lots of comments, and I’m not exactly sure why those with the vitriolic comments choose to visit your website if they hold such negative feelings for you or what you do.

    As for the rest of us, here’s my take: like others (and even yourself), I WISH the world (or even the U.S) were such that women could grow old naturally and as long as they kept fit and took generally good care of themselves were looked at as attractive. But, unfortunately, that’s not the case in real like. And yes, MAYBE if the Hollywood celebrities who can most afford all the newest, latest, greatest advances in surgery would NOT indulge, we would begin to accept the natural aging process. BUT, since that hasn’t happened yet, I say “here’s to you Jane! You can afford the surgery — and damn, you do look good!!” It’s your choice, and I do certainly feel there’s at least a difference in someone who at a certain age, has surgery to try and regain/retain their looks as opposed to those young ones who end up changing their looks so much that they don’t even look like themselves anymore.

    Anyway, can’t wait for more about your eating and exercise regimen, since that’s all I can afford to duplicate! : )

    Ignore the negative!!!!!!
    Blessings to you and yours!

  45. P.S. — forgot to mention in my earlier post — LOVE the hair, very flirty and fresh!! — And yes, like others, I wish some women would be brave enough to go silver; but since they don’t, love the look you have at this point!!

  46. Jane,
    You look lovely. This is your life and you have answered your critics. We go through this life but once, and you have done more for women and human rights then most. Your responsibility is to yourself as you have said, and if it makes you feel better, good on yer!

    You support women and their choices, and it is now our turn to support you!

    Go get’em!
    pris

  47. Count me among the disappointed. Yes, you look glamorous. No, you don’t look authentic. I do love your haircut though.

    I am sympathetic to your wish to remain young looking. That said, I admire women who own their physicality and have the courage and grace to show the world who they really are. Sexiness is generated from the interior. I think Meryl Streep is very glamorous and sexy because she is confident and real.

    I’m fairly sure your grandchildren will receive an education regardless.

    Frankly, all the plastic surgery on display in your Valentine’s Day photos gives me the creeps.

  48. I agree with what KD said. You can spin this any way you want, but you are still a hypocrite. I wonder if f Sally Field will follow your sterling example. And you could have put the money you wasted on the surgery into your grandkids’ college fund. Better yet, why is your job to get money for their education? Don’t they have parents that work? Most importantly, Meryl Streep is the biggest actress out there and she has not had a lick of work. So if she can still work into her dotage and do high profile roles, there is no reason that you should not be able to do the same.

  49. I would hate to think the “I’ll nevers” I’ve proclaimed in my lifetime were etched in stone and I could never reverse them. I would never have experienced marriage (or divorce) and I would have never known the joys of being a mother (by and large this CPA’s most important accomplishment). Basically, the person you have to please is the one that looks back at you from the mirror and, frankly, if my bondo-consistency moisturizer quits doing its job, I will explore other options.

  50. Guess it’s all ‘genetics’ Jane. I’m 73, have had no ‘work’ and think I look young for my age number when I see others younger in number!!! Am really surprised that you think you looked old at 30 and 40! You can believe that no one else thought the same way about you….Oh Life!! xx

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