Comments on: Missing My Dad http://janefonda.com/missing-my-dad/ Official Site Thu, 09 Feb 2012 02:11:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Fiona Celeste http://janefonda.com/missing-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-8351 Fiona Celeste Fri, 16 Oct 2009 23:38:57 +0000 http://janefonda.com/?p=448#comment-8351 Hi Jane, I just wanted to remind you that our pets can also help when we're feeling down. Domestic pets who live with us,[who are part of our family] are an integral part of our daily lives. They have a unique special bond with us, and they too have their individual qualities in their characteristic make-up! 'Celestial Paws' is a new service for pets. Kindest Regards Fiona C Hi Jane, I just wanted to remind you that our pets can also help when we’re feeling down. Domestic pets who live with us,[who are part of our family] are an integral part of our daily lives. They have a unique special bond with us, and they too have their individual qualities in their characteristic make-up!

‘Celestial Paws’ is a new service for pets.

Kindest Regards

Fiona C

]]> By: Mae http://janefonda.com/missing-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-5011 Mae Sat, 06 Jun 2009 11:20:42 +0000 http://janefonda.com/?p=448#comment-5011 Life is surprising sometimes. I lost my dear father to cancer in December 2008. He had just past his 80th birthday, and it all happened really quickly. It has been 6 months now and I still do not quite know how to live in a world where he isn't laughing that fabulous laugh that used to light up any room he was in. I actually typed "missing my dad" into google today. It seems a silly way to look for solace, but there you have it. The first thing that came up was this blog. And reading it did help. Thank you so much for sharing these thoughts, Ms Fonda and all the folks who commented on this entry. I miss him everyday. It still hurts. Everyday. Life is surprising sometimes. I lost my dear father to cancer in December 2008. He had just past his 80th birthday, and it all happened really quickly. It has been 6 months now and I still do not quite know how to live in a world where he isn’t laughing that fabulous laugh that used to light up any room he was in.

I actually typed “missing my dad” into google today. It seems a silly way to look for solace, but there you have it.

The first thing that came up was this blog. And reading it did help.

Thank you so much for sharing these thoughts, Ms Fonda and all the folks who commented on this entry.

I miss him everyday. It still hurts. Everyday.

]]> By: Mary Cate Gallagher http://janefonda.com/missing-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-3209 Mary Cate Gallagher Sat, 18 Apr 2009 02:31:15 +0000 http://janefonda.com/?p=448#comment-3209 I think fathers and daughters are very special. I talk to my Dad every day, it's like he's always there. Hits me out of the blue. But I'm grateful he was my father. You look so much like your father and you are serious like him, I think. Best of luck. I think fathers and daughters are very special. I talk to my Dad every day, it’s like he’s always there. Hits me out of the blue. But I’m grateful he was my father. You look so much like your father and you are serious like him, I think. Best of luck.

]]> By: Debbi Stephens http://janefonda.com/missing-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-2074 Debbi Stephens Thu, 19 Mar 2009 16:18:37 +0000 http://janefonda.com/?p=448#comment-2074 Dear Jane: In reference to your comment: "I want to please him…still. Do we ever get over this need to please the parent we were closest to?" Actually there are theories that say our need to please a parent stems from not being nurtured, accepted, and reassured by that parent. (the supportive, kind, loving parent we take for granted, the witholding one, we still have that inner child needing their approval). The coping skill for that is to nurture yourself, be your own approving parent. And, please be aware, there are hundreds, even thousands of us out here who admire you, support all your efforts past and present, and think of you as a strong, treasured individual. Dear Jane:

In reference to your comment:
“I want to please him…still. Do we ever get over this need to please the parent we were closest to?”

Actually there are theories that say our need to please a parent stems from not being nurtured, accepted, and reassured by that parent. (the supportive, kind, loving parent we take for granted, the witholding one, we still have that inner child needing their approval).

The coping skill for that is to nurture yourself, be your own approving parent.

And, please be aware, there are hundreds, even thousands of us out here who admire you, support all your efforts past and present, and think of you as a strong, treasured individual.

]]> By: Brenda Morris http://janefonda.com/missing-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-1669 Brenda Morris Thu, 12 Mar 2009 18:39:09 +0000 http://janefonda.com/?p=448#comment-1669 My dad has only been gonejust under five years and yeah its hard sometime to know they are not going to be ther to get advice from or just a smile. My mom still has his voice on her cell. So yeah I guess you never really get over the loss and always wonder if there ere things you could hve done differently. You look fabulous by the way. My dad has only been gonejust under five years and yeah its hard sometime to know they are not going to be ther to get advice from or just a smile. My mom still has his voice on her cell. So yeah I guess you never really get over the loss and always wonder if there ere things you could hve done differently. You look fabulous by the way.

]]> By: Margaret Laurens http://janefonda.com/missing-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-1313 Margaret Laurens Fri, 06 Mar 2009 03:57:50 +0000 http://janefonda.com/?p=448#comment-1313 I've been a fan since the first breath-taking moment I saw you in KLUTE--thanks for the inspiration and bravery you've shown us both on and off-screen. I lost my dear papa in October '08--he was tough and demanding, also loving and nurturing--he will always be a part of my life, in everything I do and say. I share your sentiments about missing a father--somehow they are never quite away from us. I look forward to seeing you on-stage on April 30th. Last time I saw you live was as a member of the studio audience during a taping of the Dick Cavett show,with Jack Lemmon, plugging The China Syndrome. Remember? I’ve been a fan since the first breath-taking moment I saw you in KLUTE–thanks for the inspiration and bravery you’ve shown us both on and off-screen. I lost my dear papa in October ’08–he was tough and demanding, also loving and nurturing–he will always be a part of my life, in everything I do and say. I share your sentiments about missing a father–somehow they are never quite away from us.
I look forward to seeing you on-stage on April 30th. Last time I saw you live was as a member of the studio audience during a taping of the Dick Cavett show,with Jack Lemmon, plugging The China Syndrome.
Remember?

]]> By: Jen from IVAW NYC http://janefonda.com/missing-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-1297 Jen from IVAW NYC Fri, 06 Mar 2009 00:45:06 +0000 http://janefonda.com/?p=448#comment-1297 I just saw the movie recently, it really is a great film. It spoke to me both as a veteran myself and as the granddaughter of a WWII navy man. Peace, Jen IVAW NYC I just saw the movie recently, it really is a great film.

It spoke to me both as a veteran myself and as the granddaughter of a WWII navy man.

Peace,
Jen
IVAW NYC

]]> By: Constance Huntington http://janefonda.com/missing-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-1257 Constance Huntington Thu, 05 Mar 2009 08:43:44 +0000 http://janefonda.com/?p=448#comment-1257 Hi Jane, I lost my father a year ago, ten months after my mother died, and I am struck by how frequently a wave of sadness at the loss or joy in a memory arises from the deep. Initially I was so bereft and my doctor, who is a Hindu woman, told me that she believed that our loved ones cannot go on to their new lives until we let them go. I think of that with some comfort when I find myself aching. My father, like yours, chose a career he loved. He was a bookseller and relished his work. I aspire to be like him in some ways and to be very different in others but my love for him seems to manifest itself at various times from mundane moments of daily living to time dedicated to deeper thought, creative processes and emotional periods. I don't think we ever truly and completely shed the need for the approval of these so very powerful father figures but I have attempted to reframe this dilemma by looking at it as part of my growth rather than a neurotic need (with not total success, I must admit). I'm delighted to hear you are returning to the stage and I wish you well with the experience. I hope to see your performance. This is the first time I have read your blog and I was impressed with your candor and lingual ease. Thank you for another reminder of my wonderful father. Connie Huntington Hi Jane,
I lost my father a year ago, ten months after my mother died, and I am struck by how frequently a wave of sadness at the loss or joy in a memory arises from the deep.
Initially I was so bereft and my doctor, who is a Hindu woman, told me that she believed that our loved ones cannot go on to their new lives until we let them go. I think of that with some comfort when I find myself aching.
My father, like yours, chose a career he loved. He was a bookseller and relished his work. I aspire to be like him in some ways and to be very different in others but my love for him seems to manifest itself at various times from mundane moments of daily living to time dedicated to deeper thought, creative processes and emotional periods.
I don’t think we ever truly and completely shed the need for the approval of these so very powerful father figures but I have attempted to reframe this dilemma by looking at it as part of my growth rather than a neurotic need (with not total success, I must admit).
I’m delighted to hear you are returning to the stage and I wish you well with the experience. I hope to see your performance.
This is the first time I have read your blog and I was impressed with your candor and lingual ease.
Thank you for another reminder of my wonderful father.
Connie Huntington

]]> By: Jackie http://janefonda.com/missing-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-742 Jackie Wed, 25 Feb 2009 17:28:01 +0000 http://janefonda.com/?p=448#comment-742 I feel so smart that I saw your dad in Chicago perform with Eva Marie Saint in the piece on the Supreme Court. I'll always remember it ( and the good shape she was in!) You're pretty memorable yourself. I feel so smart that I saw your dad in Chicago perform with Eva Marie Saint in the piece on the Supreme Court.
I’ll always remember it ( and the good shape she was in!)
You’re pretty memorable yourself.

]]> By: John (Jackson) http://janefonda.com/missing-my-dad/comment-page-1/#comment-174 John (Jackson) Fri, 06 Feb 2009 05:40:12 +0000 http://janefonda.com/?p=448#comment-174 My father died when I was 17 . My mother died last year . I have a happy family with 3 children. i miss them both no matter how content I am . It is the tragedy of losing loved ones that frame your life .they never go away . Mennard My father died when I was 17 . My mother died last year . I have a happy family with 3 children. i miss them both no matter how content I am . It is the tragedy of losing loved ones that frame your life .they never go away .

Mennard

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